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Part one: Pre-Departure
Departure
Summer
Two rows of driers cover the wall and hum in unison. The soft thud of the loads of wash, spinning and falling, spinning and falling, creates enough background noise to almost drown out my own thoughts, almost. I continue going through the check list in my head of all we have to do before departing for Uganda: power of attorney, backup all my files on an external hard drive, register for absentee voting, finish selling our car to my aunt, move out of our house…The list goes on and on. And here I am sitting in the laundromat prior to making a trip to Goodwill and Woodman’s for some last minute items. The normalcy of these activities, going to the laundromat, going to Goodwill, going to Woodman’s, clashes in my mind with the upcoming move. I try to drown out the check list and the sound of the driers by getting lost in Dark Star Safari by Paul Theroux…But I just end up staring down at a page full of letters, which do not convert into words with meaning in my head… Four more weeks.
Those last four weeks flew by in a blur, we had a garage sale and finished selling nearly everything we owned until we were the proud owners of nothing but an air mattress. There were whirlwinds of goodbye parties, and a long road trip, first to Canada, then an accidental detour to Niagara Falls, then to Syracuse, Boston, Chesire, New Haven, New York City, Princeton, and finally to Terre Haute, Indiana.
Finally, on Thursday the 26th of May we left Beloit. It wasn’t simply a “bye Beloit, see you later.” I first went to Beloit in the fall of 2007, visiting on and off until moving there for college in 2011 and making the move permanent, until now. I went to college in Beloit, I paid my first rent in Beloit, Beloit is where I became not just independent, but autonomous. And while without that autonomy I wouldn’t be ready to go into the Peace Corps, I will miss Beloit deeply for all the relationships and home I built there. Leaving Beloit meant saying goodbye to a part of myself. Thus, saying goodbye to Beloit wasn’t simply a “bye Beloit” it was closing an important chapter of my life and starting a new one. There is a strange morbidity in saying goodbye. When babies are born people celebrate, when it’s someone’s birthday people celebrate, when someone gets a new job people celebrate; but when you join the Peace Corps, while there is a lot of celebration there are a lot of goodbyes, tears, words of good luck, and a lot of “are you sure?” With the Peace Corps you aren’t going for a simple road trip or a short flight; in some ways departure is connected, maybe to death, but more so to a closure of sorts. I think that’s why I have such a hard time saying goodbye, accepting the end of something is hard, and saying goodbye is a very firm end. In many ways I think that’s the reason I avoided saying goodbye to a lot of people.
We’re closing one chapter in our lives and opening another, a set of blank pages, and some parts of yourself do die, change, and other parts grow; a lighter example of this would be my relationship with rice. Before moving to China I passionately hated rice, but within a few months my hatred of rice died. My hatred of rice died, a love with rice grew, I changed.
So, on that sunny and pleasant day in May we left Beloit and drove to Shorewood, my home town, to spend our last day and a half before departure. Shorewood is a suburb slightly north of Milwaukee on Lake Michigan. An affluent, liberal, community, famous for its intense Midwestern niceties and excellent public school district, Shorewood was a great place to grow up, and a great place to branch out from. I love Shorewood, but it’s been a long time since it has been my home, so in some ways returning for the final day before departure felt like having one foot in the door and one foot out, while being able to say goodbye to more friends and family.
During that last full day my mom, husband, and I went to Atwater beach, small Chihuahuan vase in tow. The tan and brown stripes on the woven vase were an unusual receptacle for the contents: some of my father’s ashes.
At Atwater beach, the bluff drops rapidly, and a young man completely drenched in sweat runs up and down the stairs. My mom, husband and I make our way down the steps, and finally to the beach were I ask my husband to stay on the beach while my mom and I walk towards the water and we eventually walk out onto one of the water breakers. The lake is calm and it is a pleasant 65 degrees. My stomach is in knots. My mom says a few words in Spanish and I throw the ashes into the calm, cool, clear waters of Lake Michigan.
The rest of the day is spent finishing last minute errands, having supper with one of my aunts, my uncle, and some of my cousins, and later having pie with some friends. At about 8pm my stomach started gurgling. I had gotten terrible food poisoning a week prior, and had spent a full 36 hours throwing up, and several days after that with the feeling that my stomach was doing back flips. Now, the night before departure, needing to pack, needing to say goodbye, needing to be present, I was feeling terrible. I spent the rest of the evening maintaining a close relationship with a porcelain God, or sitting on the couch, clutching a bowl, giving my husband directions on what to pack in my bag. So you may be asking, nerves? The stomach flu? Well, several hours earlier I received my last Hepatitis A vaccine, and the mild side effects can include, nausea and vomiting. Still better than having hepatitis. So, I woke up at 5am the next morning to frantically finish packing and get both my bags under 50 lbs, I did it, and we departed for the airport on time.
We departed for the airport early on the morning of the 28th, and I crying, left my mom, step-dad, and Wisconsin. As my husband and I were sitting at the gate, terror slowly started to consume my thoughts: what are we doing? It would be so much easier just to stay in Wisconsin. What on earth are we doing? I can’t believe we’re joining the Peace Corps. I remind myself about the growth we will go through, how much Peace Corps will challenge us, and how many new things we will learn, however myself talk soon devolves into blah, blah, blah…People keep saying they’re proud of us, but am I proud of myself? Moreover, I had purposefully looked up very little information on Uganda. Paul Theroux talks about the joy of discovery and how much the internet takes away from the surprise, and I had been trying to attain this. I had avoided books on Uganda, I didn’t look up photos on facebook. I wanted to be surprised. However, in this moment, surprise was sounding very terrifying. Thus, with my self-talk failing I decide to focus on my surroundings instead.
The black pleather airport seats are uncomfortable. I look to my left and maybe 20 feet away a pale woman sits slouched and yawns repeatedly, is she tired or trying to fill the silence? The terminal is nearly full and no one is speaking. My husband is sitting next to me looking at the one small Uganda guide book we bought. The button on my purse says, “Peace Corps, Redefine Your Future” Well this is definitely redefinition…
Eventually we board the small plane bound for Philadelphia. We first met with a recruiter and began our Peace Corps application in June of 2015, now, a year later, we’re finally leaving. Step one: Get to Philly, step two: complete staging, step three: get on a bus at 2am for New York, step four: catch and 11am, 15-hour flight to South Africa, step five: occupy ourselves for six hours, step six: get on another four-hour flight to Uganda, step seven: get on another bus to our staging site.
As the plane ascends over the Midwest, the farms look like they’re stitched together like a patchwork quilt. As we fly over Appalachia the small mountains look like green waves. Finally, the Philly skyline comes into view and we land. Step one complete.©